hi kevin, i am 50 this year, noona just turned 63. a few of us are getting close to your years.

i to have fibro and lupus.
when the medication is sorted out, life can become easier.
when my lupus is out of control, i sleep lots more sometimes 20 hours a day.
unfortunatelly there is no cure for the 3 auto immune disorders your wife has.
many of us have multiple, and they are usually interrelated.
this can make it harder to control, but when they are in balance, life can be enjoyable.

i hope the rhuemy can see your wife soon.
wishing you both the best.