First, let me welcome you to our family where everyone understands what you are dealing with. Many of us have been exactly where you are. Also, once we finally received our diagnosis, many of us realized that we suffered from symptoms of the disease for decades before the diagnosis. I, personally, realized that I had been suffering since High School and, like you, was dismissed back then and no doctors took me or my symptoms seriously at all!!
Also, please know that, while Lupus is a chronic disease and can affect your life, there are so many different types of Lupus and, with proper care and lifestyle changes, you can still have a reasonably normal life. Having the diagnosis does not equate to and end of your life....far from it!
Please take the time to learn as much as you can about Lupus, about your particular Lupus, how it affects you, its medications, what things you can do to avoid worsening of the disease, and how you can take steps to improve the quality of your life. Also, please know that we are all here to help you do all of those things, so you are never alone when you are here with us.
I wish you the very best and I am so happy that you joined us!!
Peace and Blessings
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