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    My Dear Dear Oluwa
    I too find it hard to work out what to say. I can relate your experience to the loss of my children and a divorce but nothing can compare to your personal grief. All I can offer is I was once told to write down how I felt when going through deep grief. I can say that this did help me as I was able to write down how I felt but I couldn't really express it verbally I just found it too confronting to say the words.

    I have read here so much compassion, and offer of support as I have read in any other thread. This is an example of this group we are family! A flash in my mind just gave me a visual of a movie and the people were singing .... We are family... A nice happy vision.

    You write well why not write how you go through your grief to help others and publish it as an experience to be read by others and it may help someone else. I often find that helping others in away helps us get though our day. I hope it may help you!

    Lots of hugggggssssss
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    Oluwa,
    I've been thinking of you when I've heard about all of the snow that Seattle has been getting. I hope that you are doing all right.
    If you ever want to get away from the cold and come down the coast for a visit, we have a spare room that is available!
    Hugs,
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    THINKING of YOU ALWAYS Marijo and wishing you the BEST during a very difficult time in your life. LOVE YOU SO MUCH
    We Live in a MORTAL, FRAIL, IMPERFECT world in which the word "FAIR" doesn't always apply.Make EVERY MOMENT COUNT with the ones you LOVE because it can end in the blink of an eye. Love, Jeannette

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    Trying to balance my love with memories. The weight on the seesaw has to be adjusted, more weight on one side and vice versa. Tough, rough and I am not buff enough for this task....a work in progress. Each death seems like yesterday, but in my heart the missing seems forever....

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    i found the pain does fade.
    the memories will fade, if you let them.

    if i sit and do nothing, it brings bad sad memories.....
    if i fill my days with activities, (not just big events, just activities), i do not feel the pain, but i still remember the joy.

    i keep happy thoughts and pictures around me.
    look for a nice way to release the love you have.
    if you cannot release love....
    you have sorrow.

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    Wonderfully said
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    Oluwa, It is extremely difficult to loose a husband suddenly. I have been through it and you never get over it. People say time will help. I didn't believe them at first, but it does. All you can do is take one day at a time. The littlest thing or memory can trigger a response in you. Be good to yourself and take care.

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    Desley....thank you for your kindness...I do keep a personal journal too, again. After Bola died I shredded all my other writings...my words I didn't want another to read. I don't know really why I did, except because they were mine. I wish I had not. Since Bola died, I started another...afraid I will forget some things. I am so sorry for the loses you have had, and you are right our grief is our own..only we can walk our journey and meet people along the way. Happy to have met you...tight hugs.
    I have Lupus. So *^#@! what.

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    Thank you, Marla..that is so generous of you...hugs. I am still working on leaving outside my neighborhood. Anxiety keeps me close...thank you though. Spring has finally arrived in Seattle.....sunny today and Jack and I played in the day....tight hugs..
    I have Lupus. So *^#@! what.

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    Thank you, Steve...all will be well. Maybe not tomorrow, or the next, but I know it will. Thank you for your kind words. Tight hugs.
    I have Lupus. So *^#@! what.

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