Hi Paul! Welcome to WHL we are so glad that you found us! We all go through the "there are people worse of than us" thing but, you are correct, sometimes that is not what we need. I have found the best thing is to have a place where people do undersand what we are going though and today you have found that! There are wonderful people here and loads of information. Although there are more women here than men, we do have some wonderful men in the group (one of them being our FABULOUS Moderator Rob).
No matter what kind of Lupus you have it is a hard pill to swallow. I hope you find the comfort here that I have and, once again, welcome to our Lupus family!