My daughter and son-in-law are stationed at an AFB very close to where his grandparents live. Recently, "Grandpa" has been losing weight and not participating in anything. He refused to go to the doc. He finally got bad enough that he went to his doc and is now in the hospital. The docs are also suspecting some sort of cancer, but they are still in the phase of running all kinds of tests.
The family is having a tough time, and my youngest daughter is finding out very quickly what it is like to be the in-law who is trying to help out and be supportive in a tough situation.
My heart is with both you and Meg as you both go through this (and BonusMom, too).