I know that this can be so scary and frustrating. Like you, most of us have come to the conclusion that we suffered from symptoms of Lupus for many years before our doctors diagnosed us. So you are most certainly not alone there. All of your symptoms do sound like they could be the result of Lupus, but there could also be some overlapping issues going on also. Almost all of us suffer from Lupus as well as from one or more over-lapping illnesses.
Have you been diagnosed with Lupus or are the doctors still trying to determine if you do, indeed, have the disease? Usually, the front-line treatment for Lupus is Plaquenil, Prednisone, and NSAIDs (non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs). The drugs that you mentioned did not sound like Lupus treatments. If you have, indeed, been diagnosed with Lupus, perhaps you can speak to your doctor about starting you on treatment specifically for the disease.
The Plaquenil will often help the achy joints, any skin manifestations, the fatigue, and sometimes the numbness and tingling. The Prednisone (a cortico-steroid [nothing like anabolic steroids]), helps to supress the over-active immune system (your body attacking itself with anti-bodies), decrease inflammation caused by the over-active immune system such as: swelling,warmth,tenderness, and pain. Also, if any of your internal organs have been damaged by Lupus, Prednisone is the drug most used to stop and/or reverse this damage. NSAIDs are used to also help with the pain and inflammation.
Remember, the cause of Lupus is not known and, therefore, there is no cure. The purpose of treatment is to reduce/prevent damage to tissues and organs and to prevent flare-ups (periods when symptoms are worsened) of the disease. As such, each of us may have a different treatment regimine depending upon our individual symptoms.
I wish you the very best and please know that we are here for you whenever you need us. You are not alone!
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