Deana, I am SO sorry that this is happening to you and that you have no answers as of yet. I think there is nothing more frustrating than knowing you are sick but the doctor is unable to determine what is wrong. I think there are a lot of people on this forum and others who have been in your shoes. I have read about a lot of people who had to wait several years for a diagnosis. I was in a similar situation too. My first rheumy brushed off my symptoms and said I had fibromyalgia, but I knew something more was wrong. I slowly began developing more symptoms and got a new rheumatoogist and am now being treated for lupus but still don't have the official diagnosis, which can be frustrating. From all your symptoms it appears that something is going on in your body (it is not all in your head and you are not crazy). The elevated sed rate means that you have inflammation in your body. Usually people with fibromyalgia do not have elevated sed rates. Anemia is also common in lupus and other autoimmune diseases. My understanding of a lot of the autoimmine diseases is that symptoms can develop slowly over a long period of time and it can take years to get an accurate diagnosis.
Don't give up. keep a log of all your symptoms. I also find that if I am able to go to the doctor when I am in a bad flare and in unbearable pain, more things turn up on my labs. Hopefully others will be along with some other suggestions. We are here if you need to vent or have more questions. Please let us know what continues to happen. Take care and I hope you find some relief soon.