I think if we knew what would be in the future of children before they were born, no children would be brought into this world.
Life without woes or risks is a life not lived.
I spoke with a woman, who knew two women both with Lupus who said they never felt better than while being pregnant. I went, "Really?" So, who is to say, statistics? You just may not be apart of that statistic.
Don't feel guilty for having Lupus, missing plays, games and etc. There are others ways to interact, to make children feel acknowledge and loved. Be creative instead of stressing over guilt.
I have Lupus. So *^#@! what.