It really is hard to be not only sick, but in a new unfamiliar place, and in a situation where you feel trapped too. I was diagnosed wth SLE in 2004. I have been where you are now. It took time, but I got my situation, and my Lupus under control. It took time, effort, and alot of tears, but it all fell into place finally.
Try to tackle the problems one at a time, and use your "foggy" head to the best of your ability on the most important issue first-your health, as in getting a Dr. and Rheumo you can trust. As far as a support group, most of us can't find one remotely close to us. But, we have this place, and it really can help. It's a real support group, we just don't meet face to face.
Welcome to our group, and please, make yourself at home. And have hope, things can get better.