sinking in stress
I am wondering how you deal with stress. Yes, YOU! (ha ha) I am so overwhelmed right now with being a mom to my three great kids, and also having to be a parent to my MOM. Ugh. LONG story there... but here's a synopsis of her past 5 weeks: lost her alimony payments (due to ex retiring) and has to learn to live on disability alone, totaled her truck, had to get new vehicle (at least she was covered by ins), has to move to subsidized housing, sell (or donate) half of her stuff (and she is a collector) so she can move into small 1 bed apt, fell in my driveway and broke her wrist, needed stitches, a head ct, etc, had to find a new home for one of her dogs, because new place will only allow her to have one dog....
So now she has to move by the end of the month, and I am the only family around for her, so who gets the responsibility of moving her, sorting through all her stuff... That 's just the tip of the iceberg... she is such a child! She has never taken care of herself (spoiled only child syndrome), and has always had someone doing it all for her. Walking into her home you are hit with the smell of urine, feces, rotten food, old garbage.... she won't wash her dishes (she has a dishwasher, too), she lets the dogs go everywhere in the house, and then doesn't pick up after them... her counters, floor are covered with trash...
It's a literal nightmare. And after a weekend of moving and sorting through just her GARAGE, I am in a massive flare up. So now taking care of her mess is making me sick... How do you guys deal with life's stresses??? Any tips on coping, ways to get through it and not cause a flare??? Is that even possible?? On top of that, my sweet husband has been working OT all week... I feel like a failure as a mom, daughter, wife, friend.... I hate the stupid lupus guilt. Like I wouldn't want to feel better! I am lucky to have an understanding hubby, even though he can't help me much this week.
Love to you all, thanks for letting me put this crap in words,
"You do not have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body." C.S. Lewis