my flares always show up in my eyes first. Many times i don't even realize that i am in a flare, and somone in my family will notice my face, and tell me. I avoid mirrors at all costs when in a flare....and if i have to go out, i just cover up everything, and even shrug my shoulders at an attempt to cover my face with makeup....nothing helps.
however, i have found a calming cream for my face that seems to help with some of the face discomforts. It is neutrogena (or Aveena) Ultra Calming Face Cream, and it really helps me.