Hi LB :lol:
One of the most common features of Lupus is the fatigue..a debilitating fatigue. It is also the most misunderstood feature to friends, families and loved ones of the lupus patient. Almost 90% of lupus patients experience fatigue, making it one of the most common symptoms. These symptoms may vary from severe, fleeting or persistent and can form a vicious circle. When a lupus patient is tired, he does not feel like exercising. But, here is the catch 22, if we don't exercise then often we become tired and lethargic! It is important to ensure a balance between exercise and rest - exercise and rest intermittently as the body allows. He is listening to his body, it will tell him when it is time to rest. Increasing stamina allows us to gain more strength and muscle tone. Remember that rest is also needed for us to restore energy.
It is not uncommon to find that he is unable to participate in his normal pattern of daily activities, such as working, or participating in social activities. The exact cause of this fatigue is not known and there is no cure for it - only lifestyle changes to make sure that he gets restorative rest.
Since he is newly diagnosed, he may indeed be suffering from some depressions (whose symptom is also fatigue) and his fatigue may be exacerbated by the depression.
I would say to you that, before you talk to him about doing more, you learn as much as you can about the disease, its symptoms, the fatigue, the depression etc. It will be of great help to him to have a loved one who is informed about his illness and can, therefore, be supportive. Especially since he is going to have to make a lot of lifestyle changes!! Once you've armed yourself with knowledge, you may not feel the need to discuss his inabilities with him .
Best of Luck :lol: