Hi LB, and welcome.
There are others here who are spouses or partners of individuals with lupus, you're welcome to be part of our group. SHaring and learning from each other, we also support each other. We can learn from you - about the impact of our condition on others, and you can learn from us, about our feelings and condition from "the inside out" so to speak.
Many hugs of welcome, and please post and visit often!