Sorry about all that mess. does the 13year old want to live with you instead, can she?
i wouldn't any child living with that type of person.
my middle child we got custody of her dad was herion addice mom alcholic so we went to court and got custody of her when she was 9.
we just went thru the prom thing and graduation party no how you feel about being over whelmed and sick at same time. but when we need it we find the strength to over come our illness to be there when we need to be.
hope things work out for you. i will keep you in my thoughts.
sending you hugs