I understand how you feel about not being able to participate in college activities etc. I was just diagnosed at 34 and I agree it's not fair not being able to do what you want when you want and how you want due to Lupus. From what I have read and spoke to other Lupus patients about is that Lupus is a disease you can live with for a very long time. In fact, both my great grand mothers (maternal and paternal) had Lupus and died in their late 80's early 90's not from Lupus but other issues and that was over 15 years ago. I think you really have to focus on your health if you expect and want to live a healty life with Lupus. Sleep, taking your meds as instructed, eating healthy and trying to keep the stress down are key to your health success. School will be there, true and real friends will be there,family will be there but you have to be there as well and not deny what you have. I recently enrolled in school to complete my degree over a year ago. Things were going great and I was getting good grades (prior to me being diagnosed) Nov. 2008 I was diagnosed and in the middle of the fall semester. I had no access to a computer to email/drop my computer and math class. I have an F on my records due to this. I have no doubt I will retake both classes and get an A but at the advisement of my doctor and family I sat out Spring semester to focus on my health and try to get my Lupus to go into remission. I am on my way but I do miss school.
I say all this to tell you...you have time and can certainly do all the things you want to do but please take care of you and your health first and foremost!!!