I'm Rob, I'm 41, and was diagnosed with SLE five years ago. I live in Maine. My mother is Canadian, and was born in New Brunswick. She moved to Vancouver when she was little, and spent much of her childhood there. Beautiful country you live in.
I too, came to a crossroads in my life about 4 years ago. In fairly short order, the life I had worked so hard to build for so many years, disappeared almost overnight. I owned a successful company, it was my dream job. I had a beautiful fiancee, friends, I had really finally "made it". I was having terrible health problems though, and I was eventually diagnosed with Systemic Lupus in 2004. My fiancee left a month before the wedding, and I had to sell my business and go on full disability, which I am still on. Friends stopped coming around, and my family was anything but supportive. Alone and hopeless, I tried to kill myself, and damn near succeeded.
I recovered from that, packed my stuff and my 3 cats, and moved back to my childhood home in Maine to start a new life. I've had setbacks, but so far so good. My family and I have mended fences, and I've been learning to live in a new normal. So, I understand very well how you are feeling, and what your situation is like. I want you to know that there is life after reaching a crossroads, and it's not necessarily bad. Many doors closed for me, but many new ones opened up as well. I've found new friends, new interests, and have been learning to cope with the rollercoaster of flares that is Lupus.
I don't feel as though I have anything to offer a woman either, and the pain of being abandoned still is very fresh. But, people here, friends, always tell me there's someone out there for me, so I take their encouragement, and keep an open mind. I would pass that advice on to you.
As you can see, this is a very active group, and in my opinion, the best support site I've ever belonged to. People here are incredibly understanding, and the words of friends here have gotten me through many a long, lonely, and scary night. I think you'll like it here. Welcome to our group!