Wow, your mind must be sending you mad with this one. I was in a similar situation, an old boyfriend.
Something in your gut knows the truth in this. Why check the mobile? Like Oluwa asked....red flags before?
If you do meet up with this woman, remember, your husband has started this not her.He should have said NO into helping her knowing he was married or told you about it straight away.How does he know her and where from? I would be very hurt if my boyfriend, husband was helping a woman who he didnt really know and i found out she was a stripper. Of course i suppose strippers can be lovely people and it is just a job for them.But id not feel comfortable my partner to be looking at other women in a strip club,without my knowledge, cause how else would he have got to know her? I would also ask why was he doing it?
Something in your relationship has told you to check his mobile. Good luck with the meeting if you go.Hope it all sorts itself out one way or another.
thinking of you
I am still here,just been on new meds so unable to function like i used to.I will pop back,just know im thinking of you all and hoping you are keeping on keeping on.xxxxxxx