I don't notice "flares" because it seems I am always having problems. I feel like I am in one, big, continous "flare" that never ends. I try not to let it get me down though and I think I do a pretty good job of it. I am usually in pretty good spirits, although I do complain about the lupus and its effects, especially on this website. Believe it or not, people think I have a "pollyanna" attitude.