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    Default I think I am just gonna fall apart :(

    BEFORE they get me diagnosed completely. On top of my other myriad symptoms I now have this awful pain in my right side (both front and back). Rash on my face. Bruises on my legs and I KNOW I haven't run into anything. So I go to the dr this morning. Pee'd in the cup and she did a pelvic (what FUN those are - NOT!!) She has no clue. So I have to go have a pelvic ultrasound tomorrow. She also told me to call the Rheum. and "harrass the daylights out of them" so they'll move my July appt up. (If her office hadn't screwed up in the first place I'd have already seen them by now) So I called and they don't have any sooner appts. I'm on the cancellation list but if it takes this long to GET an appt. who in the right mind would cancel???
    I HATE THIS!!! I feel like I am slowly falling apart and they'll find out what the heck is wrong when they do my autopsy. :cry: :cry: I've been living with this for 7 years now and slowly going downhill the whole time and I STILL have no answers. All I keep getting is "we don't know" and prescriptions for pain meds. And while I do appreciate those, it isn't what I need. I need answers. I need to know I'm not a nutcase. I need HELP!!! I try to stay positive and take things one day at a time but it just ain't happening today. I just want to sit down and cry all day. Think that might help? I doubt it but it's how I feel. Sorry for the poor me post but I have no one else to talk to that understands.

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    so glad that you posted. i just spent the last hour walking around the house crying. feeling lonly, sick and lost. just wanted you to know that ou are not alone out there. i know one day i will feel better, as will you. but in the mean time i'm just going to push through, cry and show up for life the best i can. i know things could be worse but this sure feels bad.

    sending you good thoughts. we will pull through!

    melinda

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    Thanks Melinda. I'm sorry you are having a rough day as well. I think crying is medicinal in it's own way, cleansing I guess. Not to mention moistening dried out eyes LOL
    I really hope your day/week gets better. {{{HUG}}}
    Tracy

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    hey tracy we both made it to "tadpole", i guess thats somthing :lol: !

    my body feels worse but my heart feels a little bit better, think its all that crying...

    take care,
    melinda

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    So sorry your body is feeling worse. Hopefully today will be a better day for you. I'm feeling a little better emotionally too today which is good cause yesterday I just wanted to crawl in a hole.
    Too funny on the tadpole. Wonder what the big fish are called? ROFL
    {{{HUG}}} Try to rest and relax today ok?

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    Hi there
    Well your not alone. All of us have gone through this process of being passed from one doctor to the next with no difinitive answers. It is frustrating. I live in an area where rheumys are gold. I had to wait for a month and a half to even get in and see one. So I made appointments with 2 rheumys and was on the cancellation list too. I totally understand where you are coming from. Something someone suggested on another site was making a list of all of things you want to talk about. This was the best idea ever. I saw my rheumy and forgot half of the stuff I wanted to cover because I had no list. So this next go around guess what, I am making my visit and money count by bringing that list.

    When all of these symptoms began appearing about 5 years ago I too thought I was a freak and chalked it up as so. Now I know that I am not a freak just my body is. LOL. No seriously I can now understand why these things are happening and what is causing it. I wish the doctors could come up with an answer as to why it happens, but for now I am glad they can come up with what I have. That was half the battle there.

    The next battle is finding something that will eleviate the pain and make us more mobile and feel human again. This is tricky since everyones body with lupus has similar symptoms but reacts differently than each others. What works for me may not work for you. The nice thing is that we can try it though. Each time we try it we might find it works even if only for a little while. And relief no matter how long it lasts is a blessing.

    I wish you the best and hope you can get in to see your rheumy soon and get some answers. This will help your mental health as much as anything.

    But remember we are all here and when everyone else on the outside world has no clue as to the pain and hardships you go through daily, we do. We are living it right along with you. So let it out friend. It is okay.
    We understand and you are not alone.

    If you want to talk sometime feel free to contact me. I use msn messenger and my e-mail is on my profile.

    Good luck and keep intouch as we are anxious to here what is happening and how your doing.

    Always,
    Angela

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    Since we are all tadpoles here maybe we will turn into frogs...and then princesses/princes. Thanks for the laughs ya'll (from Texas) I needed one. My hands are going numb while I'm typing this...one of my biggest lupus complaints lately.

    I have had abdominal pain they can't track. I had the full round of ultra sounds and they found cyst on my ovaries but that didn't account for where the pain I'm having is coming from. It's on both sides and hurts in the front and the back. Luckily it comes and goes. It gets worse when I do too much.

    You are the CEO of taking care of yourself! So look at all the Dr visits etc as part of your high powered job. I know, it's a hugh pain. We all hate it.

    A good cry always makes me feel better too. A nurse clued me in to crying in the shower. If you have kids that is a great place to let go. No one can hear you and your eyes don't look so bad when you get out. My mom died of lupus at age 60, four years ago. I was having a really bad day with pain and when I picked up my 13 year old from school I was crying. When she asked me why I was crying I told her I now knew better what my mother had gone through and I had a whole new appreciation for how strong a woman she had been.

    Thanks again for the chuckle. You have support here!

    Dency

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    Thanks ya'll (Dency I'm originally from South Georgia LOL) you guys are great.
    I'm doing a bit better today. Had the ultrasound yesterday and that was a nightmare. The same nurse that screwed up my Rheumy appt didn't fax the paperwork over. REally tired of her messing with me like that. Luckily they felt sorry for me at Radiology and went ahead with the u/s. Not that it did any good. She never went near my right side where the pain is. She was more interested in what wasn't there.
    I had to have a hysterectomy in 2001 for a tumor, cysts, endo, pain and bad af's. Had been dealing with all that since I started af at age 12. So 14 years of that. Luckily I was able to have child in the middle of all that. anyway the tech kept asking me why I had to have they hyst and didn't I know that it doesn't cure endo?? HELLOO!!!!! I HATE when they do that. Of course, I DIDN'T know the endo wouldn't go away. The only thing I was told was there was a chance the PAIN wouldn't completely go away. Didn't find out til after that the endo could come back (and has!!!). I just thought it was very rude of her because that is a personal thing, and was such a HARD decision for me. I still have issues with it, especially when my son keeps saying he wants a brother or sister. I'd LOVE to be able to give him one. But it ain't in the cards. Not right now anyway. It's all I can do to take care of what I have right now, much less add in more to have to depend on me ya know? Anyway, I was a mess when I left there.
    Pain is still there but I'm dealing with it. As usual. LOL So having a better day emotionally today anyway.
    Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. {{{HUG}}} I hope you all have a great PAIN FREE weekend.

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    i thought i was the only one who cryed in the shower. it's a great place because i can really let go and my house mate won't hear me.
    glad to hear most of us are doing a little better today.
    i have to have a hard conversation with a guy i really like. i have just starting to date since i was told i have lupus 2 years ago. i have gone out with this guy 3 times and really like him. he keeps pushing to go for big hikes, climbing, and bike riding. i keep finding ways out of it but its time to let him know that i have lupus limitations. i really don't want him to run away, but thats part of this illness. have any of you had to have this talk with a guy and had it turn out better then you thought?
    it's been making me weepy all day today...... blaa!! ops:
    be well,
    melinda

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    :P I was feeling very sorry for myself. I hadn't had a major flare in about 4 years and now I am totally down for the count. Just took two weeks off of work and taking tons of pills, and had an allergic reaction and now am off all pills and feeling pretty miserable. So as bad as it sounds its nice to read about others in the same spot. No one around here understands Lupus and I feel they are all saying, hey you were fine two weeks ago, whats up? 8) So sorry you aren't feeling well and wishing you health, humor and remision.. thats whats keeping me going knowing it went away before and hopefully will again. keep :lol:

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