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    Hi! My 7 yr old daughter and I both have SLE. She just recently met her 4th criteria for diagnosis.....it's been 15 months of battling with various docs to get her treatment. So, needless to say, I am tired of battling!
    Just wanted to touch base with others who are LIVING with lupus, COPING with lupus, and THRIVING with lupus. Specifically, any mothers of children with lupus.
    We're both on plaquenil, prednisone, methotrexate, NSAIDS, prevacid/nexium, and various vitamins. The daily grind of this routine is a struggle. Although we're fortunate in that we've both been tolerating most meds without difficulty, I'm finding it very challenging to stay strong emotionally....
    I hope that this can be a place of support.

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    Hello lilmisssunshine

    Welcome to the forum this is defently the place to be for any kind of support that you need,
    I got diagnosed with SLE in sept 07, ive had soo much previous problems had no idea and DX of anything mostly by drs telling me it was all in my head but now after being thrown from pilla to post im under a fab consultant and still with my GP who originally dx me
    sorry to hear you and your daughter has it and at such a younge age too, the peeps and mods on here are fab ppl 8) you are very welcome here

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    Hello and welcome lilmisssunshine

    I'm not diagnosed as yet, my mother had lupus and my sister is diagnosed.

    I'm on plaquenil and arthrotec. Glad to hear you and your daughter adjusting to the meds.

    How long have you been on plaquenil? It can take up to six months to kick in, but once it does...wow. It's made a big difference in my quality of life.

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    thanks so much for the welcome! i was diagnosed 4 yrs ago after recurrent pericarditis and arthritis; started plaquenil at that time. i continue to flare every 4-6 wks, but it's so much better than it was. i'm not tolerating the methotrexate as well. i'm constantly picking up infections! imuran was HORRIBLE for me - never ending vomiting and chills, vision changes, etc.
    my daughter just started her plaquenil, and is tolerating it well so far. she's home from school again today(fever and cold symptoms). this is a huge issue for me - when to send her to school, when to stay home, etc??? how much do i push her to get through the day versus encouraging her to learn her limits and support her with those decisions?
    i know she's only 7, but very mature for her age. and she has seen me struggling for the last several years.....it's a constant juggling act.
    i'm a nurse practitioner, and constantly getting called to come pick her up from school. my boss is wonderful and has allowed me the flexibility to so. i've made it clear that she is my priority. it's just very difficult to live "normally!"
    thanks so much for listening. it's so nice to be among people who just get it!!!

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    Gentle hugs to you and your daughter lilmisssunshine

    My heart goes out to you.

    When I was in school, there were days I was so tired I would tell my mother that I had a sick belly, even though I was just plain tired.

    She was a stay at home mom, so even though she was suspecious she could let me stay home, but she would make it clear that I was to stay in my bed or she'd dress me and take me to school.

    :lol: That was just fine by me because I was so tired all I wanted to do was sleep.

    All you can do is your best. Some times we do have to struggle through our day, other times we can rest. I'm sure if your daughter was truely not up to it, you can sense it. Or she'd protest loudly enough.

    It's a tough call.

    I'm on a combination of plaquenil and arthrotec 75. This combination is really doing alot for my joints. I had to try alot of medications to find the mix that was right for me.

    I have a very good family doctor who also treats my sister. So she's familier with the family history.
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    Hi, and thx for sharing. I think most days I have a decent grasp on whether or not to send her to school. It's those fuzzy gray days that drive me nuts! Like when she has a 99.8 temp, is complaining everything hurts, and is clearly more swollen. She always takes a nice warm bath before trying to move around too much, and this is usually all the "warm-up" she needs to get started. However, at least once a week, those baths just don't do it. I stress over wondering is she getting sick, are her friends at school sick, am I sending her into the germ-pit, etc. Her school and teachers are wonderful, and will call me if they feel she needs to come home.
    Or when I pick her up and see/hear all the coughing, sneezing, in her class. I think oh lord! And now there's chickenpox going around. Some of her classmates are not vaccinated, and I'm sending my immunosuppressed child to school! AHHHHHHH!!!!!!

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    Hi,
    Welcome to the site. My name is Kathy. I am 50 years old and I did not get diagnosed with SLE, Lupus and Sjogrens until I was 36 years old, but they believe that I have had Lupus since the age of about 5 or 7 years old or there abouts. I see where you are worried about sending your daughter to school where the chickenpox are going around right now. I have to ask whether your daughter is vacinated against the chickenpox. I think if it is possible that she should be vacinated against the chickenpox, because in my case I got them at the age of 35 when they did not have the vacine available and boy it really made the Lupus a hundred times worse for me.

    I am very fortunate that this disease has not as of yet shown up in my daughter or my son. They are adults now. I pray everyday that my daughter will never have this illness. I often worry about whether if she has a daughter if the granddaughter will have it.

    I have a younger sister with Lupus and my twin sister has Celiacs Disease. There are a lot of Auto-immune disorders in my family.

    I hope that you keep posting.

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    Kathy
    Lupus for many years. Like most of my life. Sjogrens that started at 35 and Scoliosis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Osteo-Arthritis of the spine, Ankylosing Spondilitis, Periferal Neuropathy, mild CP and now just recently diagnosed with PA. I had a disc replaced in December of 2007.

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    Plaquenil, Sulindac, Imuran, Celiac diet, Tramadol and B12 shot once a month.

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    Hello Lilmiss,

    I'm Rob, I am 41 and was diagnosed with Lupus 5 years ago. I am in the unique situation of being a son, who's mother also has Lupus. I'm sorry I can't help you with mother-daughter issues, but I wanted to say welcome to our group. Looks like you've already met some of our other regulars. They know their stuff and won't steer you wrong. Please, make yourself at home here.

    Rob

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    HI guys! thx for responding. My daughter has 1 of the 2 required varicella vaccines. She can not receive the 2nd now as she is on methotrexate and prednisone. She should be "covered" in terms of protection from this virus; I just drives me mad to think I am sending her to school with a suppressed immune system. I am all for freedom of choice, but this is the first time those freedoms put my child at risk.
    Rob, is there anything you can add in terms of being the son of a mom with SLE? Things you wish you knew more about, or less about? Things you can suggest I do/not do? My daughter has seen me very very ill, but I limit the amount of information I tell her. And of course, try to do all in an age-appropriate manner. I just ordered 2 workbooks from the Lupus Foundation to assist us with all of this. I hope they help!

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    Hi lilmisssunshine

    I understand your concerns about the germ pit :lol:

    I used to work with special needs children in an intergrated daycare. Lordy talk about your germ fests!

    Ask your doctor if it's okay for your daughter to take coldfx. I'm not allowed to take any cold or flu medications because of the medications I'm on. But I am allowed to take cold fx. It's pricey, but man I have dodged some really big colds and flu's.

    Soon as anyone around me starts barking coughing sneezing or feaverish sickyness I start pounding in the cold fx.

    Or if I start with symptoms of my own. So far so good. By the end of the first day of taking it I am starting to feel better and as I said have avoided any really nasty bugs.

    Only thing I found (which took me a while to clue into) is that cold fx boosts your immune system, kicks it in to hyper drive. Which is why some of my blood work was coming back with elevated white blood cell count. :lol:

    When I figured it out I mentioned it to my doctor and she laughed. She hadn't thought about that either.
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