No one here would ever think your questions and concerns are petty...so worry not. Purge that thought. You are at a safe place...
We don't suck up anything here...unless it is in a positive way to move us forward.
Whining..nope. Your concerns are justified.
Though we need a diagnose, want a diagnose, sometimes there just isn't enough information our bodies are giving them to give us one. The 4 of 11 Criteria. Blood work is just a part of the evidence for a diagnose to rule out other diseases.
It can be a roller coaster ride getting a hard diagnose. For some it can take years, as symptoms arise. Some get an immediate diagnose.
Have made all your symptoms known to your doctors...from eons ago. It is an accumulative disease. I m sure you read the ACR Criteria, eh? Would you like me to post them?
I find many, many doctors, their staff have little bedside manners. Sometimes it seems they become business people instead of doctors. Many times they put their compassion in their pockets and forget there is a mental part to us.
Are they treating your symptoms? They should be....
One more thing, never apologize for being sick..okay...head hugs. I ask to be excused but I don't apologize. Sick is never intentional.
Keep looking for your wellness.