What you are describing is sun sensitivity. This is the types of reactions a lot of us with Lupus experience. You don't always have to get a rash from it. When you describe the redness across your nose and your cheeks it is the malar rash. Not all the malar rashes look like the pictures, it depends on the person. I could not tolerate the sun as a child either. It sounds like you do have Lupus. I hope that I have answered your questions here.
Have you seen the Rheumatologist yet?
Lupus for many years. Like most of my life. Sjogrens that started at 35 and Scoliosis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Osteo-Arthritis of the spine, Ankylosing Spondilitis, Periferal Neuropathy, mild CP and now just recently diagnosed with PA. I had a disc replaced in December of 2007.
Plaquenil, Sulindac, Imuran, Celiac diet, Tramadol and B12 shot once a month.