First of all I want to welcome you to the site. This is a great site. There are a lot of us that come here with Lupus and other Auto-Immune problems. There are a lot of folks who have a lot of knowledge.
You have a lot of the symptoms for Lupus. It also sounds like you may have Sjogrens Syndrome. Has your doctor mentioned this to you? I am also wondering what kind or type of Anemia you have. It also sounds like you have Pernicious Anemia going on too. Has the doctor tested you for low iron and B12 deficiency? The reason that I ask if you may have PA is because of the Periferal Neuropathy (the tingling of the hands and feet and mouth sores) and the memory problems etc. Do you get the sores in the corners of your mouth and a sore tongue? Has your doctor ever mentioned this to you?
Are you taking any medication for the Lupus um like Plaquenil or Prednisone or any of the other medications for the Lupus? When do you see your doctor?
I also have one sister with Lupus and my twin sister has Celiacs Spru as do I. My twin does not have Lupus. I have Lupus, Sjogrens and PA etc. There will be others that will post with more information. Saysusie is very knowledgeable and wonderful as is Oluwa and Lauri. I hope that you keep posting and let all of us know what is happening. We all care very much about what is happening with you.
Lupus for many years. Like most of my life. Sjogrens that started at 35 and Scoliosis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Osteo-Arthritis of the spine, Ankylosing Spondilitis, Periferal Neuropathy, mild CP and now just recently diagnosed with PA. I had a disc replaced in December of 2007.
Plaquenil, Sulindac, Imuran, Celiac diet, Tramadol and B12 shot once a month.