WantitGone, I'm sorry you had to join this particular party...yeah, me too.
My rheumatologist said (when she first told me I probably had fibromyalgia - having done the ol' squeeze test) that I shouldn't get too hung up on the diagnosis - it was a "wastebasket term." Huh???? I assumed she meant that doctors will often dump any unexplained pain into that diagnosis. Generally, I've been very happy with my rheumatologist - she takes lupus seriously, and has never "pooh-poohed" my lupus symptoms. But her attitude about FMS seems a little cold.
In my local support group, two-thirds of the members have both lupus and FMS. It really IS difficult to tell whether the pains are FMS or lupus.
I hope the neurontin works for you!
"If you trust Google more than you trust your doctor than maybe it's time to switch doctors."