Rob is absolutely correct. I think that is an innate desire in men to have the ability to "fix" things. Whenever we go to our men with a problem, they always try to give us an answer that will correct or "fix" the problem. It is hard for us to get them to understand that we do not always want it fixed, sometimes it is enough that they just allow us to talk to them about it.
As Rob indicated, you boyfriend is essentially "fixing" one of the most important parts of Lupus...stress management! By doing so, he is providing so much more than he realizes. Understanding your "Dori Moments" relieves a lot of your stress and provides you with understanding and support. Let him know how important these small acts are to you and how they mean so much more than his trying to "fix" things that cannot be fixed!
You are very lucky to have someone who is patient, understanding, comforting and reliable. Tell him, also, that he is all of these things to you and that means so much more to you than anything else!
Peace and Blessings
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