I SO have been where you are. Perhaps my hubby should talk to yours. He said the same things to me for years.I stopped going to Doctors altogether. I knew there was something wrong but Dh and others would give me that look....you know the one...the one that says It is all in her head. I came to a point to where I believed that it was.
I have 2 really great friends. They spent some time with me this summer. Both were very worried about me. So I finally went to a doc at a clinic. I told hem the miriad of symptoms and he did a very extensive bloodwork up on me. Some things game back..........you, Teresa, already have the SED rate to show. Not everyone has that.....
My brothers were furious at my husband when the bloodwork came back. My husband was very sorry. All the sudden he realized that I could die and the liver stuff could have been handled years ago now we can't go back.
Oluwa is right. Your DH is playing russian roulet with your life. Don't you play with him. GO TO THE DOCTOR!!!!!
So what if the tests are inconclusive as alot of the autoimmune tests are.
SO.....you have the groundwork and can work from there. You have something and IT CAN KILL....
As Oluwa said...our best defense is prevention. Each flare can kill part of needed organs. Some of them you only have one of. Let him read our posts, Teresa. PM me if he needs to talk to another man who is just trying to lead the family and stay out of debt. I guarantee that my spouse will talk to him. I will give his cell. He is so there.
I am not attacking your DH. I understand where he is. I live with someone like him and I know my spouse loves me. I also know you as if you are me. You think that you will feel guilty if there is debt and what if there is not an answer.
Teresa this is real. You are worth sacrifice. The same sacrifice that you would do for DH and anyone else in your family. PLEASE, PLEASE.....DO THIS FOR YOU, you are worth it.
Forgive me if this is a little over the top. I care if you live or die.
I have promises to keep and miles to go before I sleep, and miles to go before I sleep.......Robert Frost