I wouldn't want to be paraded around with or without Lupus. No, my doctor has not paraded me around. Eeeck!! You are definately not a freak show and I would express this to him.
I would seek a good dermatologist when you have rashes, and have it biopsied.
It takes 3-6 months for the Plaquenil to kick in; give it time. If your inflammation is very high, another alternative is cortisone injections every 3 months. On day three, you will feel like a new person.
I hope you are feeling better.