Your companion just recently got diagnosed. She is having a hard time with dealing with the fact that there is no cure and that is a very frightening thing to deal with. I have had Lupus (SLE) for about 44 years. When I was first diagnosed, I had had the disease for years years already. It was still a shock to realize that there is no cure and yes I thought the situation was hopeless too. In time when her medications start working and she learns to adjust to her life with this illness she should do better. Remember though that she will always have good days and bad days as there is no cure as of yet. Maybe you two could get some counseling to help to deal with this. I guess all you can do is stand by her and let her lean on you. I wish you and her the best and hope that she gets to feeling better.
Lupus for many years. Like most of my life. Sjogrens that started at 35 and Scoliosis, Spinal Stenosis, Degenerative Disc Disease, Osteo-Arthritis of the spine, Ankylosing Spondilitis, Periferal Neuropathy, mild CP and now just recently diagnosed with PA. I had a disc replaced in December of 2007.
Plaquenil, Sulindac, Imuran, Celiac diet, Tramadol and B12 shot once a month.