Hi there, I'm new to this site....I was diagnosed almost exactly one year ago and have come a long way through the grieving process (on most days, ha). But there are still plenty of days where it's a challenge to adjust to my new self that can't do the things I used to do. I was a very active person and loved having a lot going on in my life. I had so many things I looked forward to experiencing and achieving.
So.....I am slowly adjusting to my new set of circumstances and coming up with alternate activities. Instead of going to the gym for an intense workout, I take a short walk in the park with my dog. I gave up pottery and took up photography (no heavy clay to lug around!). I do most everything in little bites and don't make many plans in advance, just wait and see if I'm going to feel well enough when the time comes. I'm trying hard to see these adjustments as new opportunities rather than dwelling on what has been taken away by lupus. I think it is going to be very important for my outlook and mental health. But it's not always an easy thing, ya know?