Hi Alanah-hope :lol:
I agree with PJ in that your mother's hesitation may be due to several things, all of which DO NOT include her not wanting to help you. As a mother with Lupus who had a daughter with Lupus, my biggest hurdle was the fact that her Lupus was SO different from mine and I truly did not recognize her symptoms. She was very ill by the time that I felt that her doctors should test her for Lupus.
This disease affects all of us so differently and your mother may be thinking that you do not have Lupus because your symptoms are different from hers. Also, your mother DOES NOT want you to have Lupus. So, when she says that it is just growing pains, these are her hopes that she is expressing. She is not dismissing you, she is honestly hoping that you are only experiencing growing pains and that you do not have Lupus.
Do continue to insist that she call for an appointment so that you can get started on the tests. Bear in mind that even then, it could take up to a year before you get a definite diagnosis. So, during the diagnostic process, you will also have to insist that you be treated for your symptoms so that you can get some relief and hopefully prevent new symptoms from appearing.
Think about have a talk with your mother and tell you how you need her support, understanding, and help now...just as she needed yours when she was in her worst flare. Because you love her, you were there for her. You need her to believe you now and to be there for you now so that the two of you can continue to support one another, learn from one another and work together to be able to manage both of your illnesses.
In the meantime, we are here to give you information, answers, support, understanding and comfort. We are here for you and your mother. You are not alone!
Peace and Blessings
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