My mother has suffered for 18 years with Lupus. Now she has Congestive Heart Failure and Cardiac Asthma, which her doctors say is from the effects of lupus on her heart and blood vessles. She has fought so hard and come through some really tough times. But this is a battle that I don't know that she can win. She is so weak. She is so tired of fighting this disease. How can I encourage her during this time? She has been my rock for so long that I don't know how to make the transition to being her rock. I don't know what to say to her. I have worked constantly researching her diseases and treatments, but I've come to a road block. Does anyone have any info reguarding these ailments in relation to lupus? I will fight for her until her last breath. She is such an amazing woman, and I hate to see her like this. I can handle the busi-work" , but then there is the reality... she is a very sick woman. And no one seems to be hopeful. If you were in her position, and only had days to weeks to live, without Divine intervention,...What would you want to hear? I want to say and do all the right things. I don't want to go on with business as usual...yet I don't want to dwell on death either. I just don't want her to think that we've given up on her. And although in normal circumstances I would just be honest with her just like I am here( we are very close), I can't seem to discuss it with her without breaking down, and I don't wan't to upset her and make things worse. Any advise would be appreciated.