Hi, Jules - welcome to the 'family!' We've all been where you are - in some manner or another - and like Saysusie says, there's no such thing as 'whining' here. We just consider it all sharing!
My husband and I were on Cape Cod for a week last June - I absolutely fell in love with the place! How lucky you are to live there! Can I ask where you live on the Cape?
I hope you find as much information and support here as I have.
"If you trust Google more than you trust your doctor than maybe it's time to switch doctors."