I just recently was diagnosed with lupus. I have yet to tell my husband he is currently deployed in Iraq. I begged the doctors and the military not to let him find out. I want him to hear it from me....i just dont wanna tell him while he is over there in a war zone. Should i wait ??? He has been gone 15 months and still has another 3 to go. I talk to him quite often so will get plenty of chances.