Welcome, Also-Ran. I share a July birthday with you (mine in tomorrow) but I'm a more than twice your age! :lol: Still, I know how isolating lupus is. And, at a young age, it must be so hard to give in to the limitations that lupus forces on you. Your "friends" sound like they are very self-focused - any not really friends. Don't pull back from the world - there are people out there who will not only accept you as you are, they will APPRECIATE you as you are. You are not just about lupus -none of us are. You still have so much to contribute - using a cane or a wheelchair is just a way to get around - it doesn't define you. Please come visit us often - I've seen your other posts as I've been catching up on my reading, and I'm glad that you're here. It will make a difference to have a group of friends that walk the same path. Come to vent, to cry, to celebrate or to ask questions. This place can be a life saver!
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