I had the same problem with my hair falling out. Handfulls in the shower every morning. hair was everywhere! My doctor prescribed a medicated shampoo and some steroid foam to use on my scalp. This didnt really seem to help.
I started watching what I ate, resting more and taking vitamins...not sure if this is what helped or not. I literally just woke up one morning and it was not falling out anymore.
I still use the medicated shampoo twice a week-because I get itchy sores on my scalp. But no more problems with hair falling out.
My best advice is to go to a dermatologist that is familiar with Lupus. Meanwhile, get a lot of rest and be sure you are eating heathly.
Good luck and take care!
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