Betty, you sound like such a 'together' person to me, I think it would be a shame not to let someone get close enough to know the 'real you.' And the real you includes your illness. That doesn't mean it has to define who you are - but it is a part of you. I can understand not wanting to reveal all of your neediest moments to someone right away. But, if you like this guy, you may want to give him the opportunity to show whether or not he's up to the challenge. And you can be frank with him (or anyone else who comes along) about how you like to be treated.
You are lucky to have such a caring and supportive roommate! I'm glad you've got someone to watch out for you. I hope you'll let us know how it's going with the new bf! Take care.
"If you trust Google more than you trust your doctor than maybe it's time to switch doctors."