My Mom has dementia (Alzheimer's) and has been in a nursing home for some time now. She held her own for quite a while, and Aricept helped. But now, she's in an advanced stage and watching the woman I've been so close to my whole life just gradually disappear is a heart breaking thing. Kokopelli, I have also sat in the parking lot in tears. I think illness makes some folks retreat deep into themselves, and like many have said, they retreat to happier times. Keep visiting your mom, Kokopelli. She knows you're there, on some level, and feels your love. And, something else to remember: the more family is involved, the better the care. I've seen it time and again at the nursing home.
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