The real story please
I hope everyone had a fantastic Halloween. I did! Of course I paid for it some yesterday, but I think it was worth it. I just love Halloween!
Anyway, I need some opinions from my favorite "experts" regarding the effects of stress and heightened emotions on my symptoms. For those who don't know, I have been diagnosed with SLE, Fibromyalgia, and secondary Reynaud's and Sjogren's Syndrome. I am on Plaquenil, Mobic and trazodone and start on Methotrexate this weekend. I have been sick for about two years and was just diagnosed in June.
Anyway, I work about 44 hours a week in a busy Los Angeles County law office. I am a senior paralegal, a department head. I have a ton of responsibility, two assistants and of course, a lot of stress that accompanies my job duties. But I also have the added problem of two co-workers from another department who have decided in the last year or so that I get special treatment because my boss has not fired me for all the sick time I have had to take off. We have a small office, 7 people. These two "ladies" have decided to gossip about me on e-mail, stop participating in office parties if I am participating, they leave me alone in the office on the days when the others are out at hearings or people have called in sick/they go out to lunch and leave me alone to handle the phones and then if someone finds out that they left they call me nasty names and accuse me of "tattling". Basically, act like small children. They have gone so far as to send around a couple of e-mails with "research" to say that because I am overweight, I have caused my illness, and should be fired because I brought this on myself.
Anyway, because we are a small, specialized office, my boss feels we need all of our employees, and has been loathe to fire anybody, despite their behavior, but I literally feel sick about going into work half the time. It has degraded to the point where they don't give me phone mesages, don't speak to me when I say hello, and are generally rude. My boss wants us to "talk it out" but we have tried and I have bent over backwards to be nice and have had it thrown back in my face. I also know that when faced when having to fire two people vs. one to stop the problem, it is easier to fire only one, and I am the one.
Obviously, my stress level is enormous. Coincidentally, over the past six weeks or so, as all of this was coming to a head, my physical symptoms have escalated as well. I really truly want to know, does all this stress have something to do with it? OR is it just in my head? Would I be right to go to my boss, who has been incredibly understanding and flexible so far, and tell him that something has to happen because all of this added stress is making me worse?
Thanks for any opinions or input you all may have.
"If you think you can, you can. If you think you can't, you're right". - Mary Kay Ash