Obviously I'm not a guy - but I do suffer from pericarditis. I have had episodes of acute pericarditis and have been in ICU for a week on numerous occasions. Pericarditis is nothing to take lightly. Having personally experienced that kind of pain - it actually feels like a heart attack. When my labs came back, my CRP was 7.5......and I received a very stern lecture from my cardiologist. And now - I immediately call whenever I start having the chest pains - THIS IS SERIOUS STUFF...IT CAN KILL YOU ! I have read that the leading cause of death for lupus patients is heart related. Below is a paragraph from that particular article.
"Pericarditis, is an inflammation of the tissue surrounding the heart that causes pressure or pain in the chest. Occurs in about 30% of patients. Inflammation of the heart muscle itself (myocarditis), although uncommon, can lead to irregular heartbeats or even heart failure."
I don't know that it's actually a "guy" thing, I believe we all tend to think "it'll be alright tomorrow"....but unfortunately tomorrow doesn't come for some who wait. I wish you the best - I know you want to make him go - but after you have tried all you can - it is ultimately up to him, and when we all get scared "enough" - we do what instinctually is the right thing.
You'll be in my thoughts and please keep us posted. I really hope that he does go to the doctor.
"I believe that friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly." - unknown