How do you motivate a guy to go to the doctor? My oldest brother has discoid lupus, but the last couple of days he's had symptoms that sound like pericarditis so I think he may be evolving to systemic lupus like me, but he says he can just "tough it out" like a bad cold. I've tried to convince him it doesn't work that way, but it's so far not working. I've already lost one brother to cancer because he didn't go see a doctor until his cancer was too advanced to be treatable, so I'm worried about my oldest brother and at the same time furious that he's being so stubborn. Sorry guys, I just don't get the macho thing. So short of drugging his coffee and physically dragging him, which isn't very practical since he's about a foot taller and 100 lbs. heavier, how do I convince him?