I'm totally new here too, so I'm just saying hi. I'm a 40 yr old mom of two, you can read my post. Being a mom with lupus is awful and beautiful at the same time. My children have definately learned compassion. My daughter, 14 going on 35, is very helpful and wonderful. I couldn't get through my days with my Asperger's son with out her. I can't imagine being a single mom, so I have huge respect for you. What is the game plan for your treatment? My rheumy is out of ideas, but I'm not a good example to go by. My diabetes, fatty liver disease don't help things. My daughter wants to do homework on this computer, silly girl. She really needs to learn priorities. I mean what's more important, chatting or her honors classes?? Really.