I'm glad your husband is supportive- that really helps.
I live in a rural area of Western Kentucky - there's a fairly large Mennonite population, but even more Amish. Most of the Mennonites here are farmers, but there are some carpenters and other craftsman.
I'm sorry your meds don't seem to be keeping your symptoms under control. Hopefully your doctor will be able to come up with a new regimen to give you better control with minimal side effects. I would be careful about the vicodin - it's a lot more addictive than many people realize, and cause some pretty nasty withdrawal symptoms when you stop taking it.
I'm really glad you found this forum and hope you will find it as welcoming and supportive as I did.