I am brand new to the site so nice to meet you all.

The reason I am posting is that I am dating the most fantastic and beautiful woman...I am in love with her (not told her yet but am sure she has guessed) we are serious about a long term relationship / possibly marriage and I couldn't be happier about that.

She has SLE and that doesn't make the slightest difference to me. I have read up about it but have no experience... I adore her and want to show love and support but want to be sensitive and understanding without overdoing it and putting her off.

I think she is having a 'flare' (is that right?) at present and for the last few days and it breaks my heart she is unwell. I want to show that I care. I don't know whether to text or call to say that I hope she is feeling better or just to be patient and wait until she gets back to me..

I really don't want to screw this up. She means the world to me.

Does this make any sense? Any advice please?