Hello and Welcome to our family.
I am so sorry to hear that you are dealing with so much and that you are so frightened. Unfortunately, we are not doctors here and cannot tell you if your symptoms are due to Lupus or not. Also, we cannot advise you on how to proceed medically with your decision to get pregnant.
I can tell you that with Lupus (and all auto-immune diseases), the lack of treatment and medication almost always leads to a worsening of the disease and the development of new (and sometimes fatal) symptoms. It is always best to start treatment as soon as possible if Lupus and/or other auto-immune diseases are suspected by attending physicians.
There have been great successes with pregnancy and childbirth amongst women with Lupus. Several of our members have given birth to healthy children. However, each of these pregnancies and births where monitored carefully by the Obstetrician and the physician (usually a Rheumatologist) treating the Lupus.
I am sorry that I could not be more helpful. All of these decisions are yours to make. We are here to help you, whatever you decide. I wish you the very best.
Peace and Blessings
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