I am not sure why your were told that this would get easier. This is a chronic disease that could be with us, in one form or another, for the rest of our lives. To suggest that this will be easy is a very unfair statement. It is not easy. Perhaps what makes it feel easier is the fact that many of us have learned how to make significant changes in our lifestyles to help us manage our symptoms better. Making those changes, in and of themselves, is a very difficult thing to do. But, at some point, it becomes a very necessary thing to do.
We have to reach a point where we stop grieving over the loss of the life that we once had and start working on managing the life that we now have so that we can have some level of normalcy. It is essential that we work on this for the sake of our health.
Most of us are on a medical regimen that would make most people's head spin. I, personally, take 18 pills per day to manage my Lupus and FM. There is no medication made that does not come with its own set of side-effects. It is important that we know the side effects of each of our medications so that we can better judge what is causing what. In this way, we are able to make changes in order to manage those side effects and to lessen their impact upon us and upon those around us. Here again, I must advocate "EDUCATION". Becoming knowledgeable about this disease, its treatments, its symptoms, its medications and their side effects, is one of the best weapons that we can arm ourselves with in our efforts to manage our disease and subsequently our lives.
The frustration and depression that you are feeling are normal. However, you cannot allow yourself to get stuck there. That will certainly only serve to exacerbate your disease. I also advocate that it is equally important to take care of our emotional health as it is to take care of our physical health. One cannot heal without the other. Perhaps you can speak to someone; a spiritual counselor, a therapist, a trusted friend, a family member. Anyone whom you feel can help you work through some of your anxieties and frustrations. Otherwise, please feel free to come here to us whenever you feel the need to speak with someone who understands what you are dealing with.
Try to concentrate on doing those things that will help you to live better with this disease and make this you priority. Please do not spend your time commiserating over your losses, work hard on helping yourself to do the best that you can with this disease. I wish you the very best.
Peace and Blessings
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