Goodness, I am so sorry that you are in such a run-a-round with the VA hospital. I hope that you do not go out and bang your head against a curb. I would suggest that you learn as much as you can about Lupus (or about auto-immune disorders) so that you can help your doctors make some informed decisions. We cannot diagnose you, but I can say that your symptoms are consistent with those of some form of auto-immune disorder.
Please read the stickys at the top of each forum here..do some research on your own (try the Lupus Foundation's website). Do some research about Auto-immune diseases to learn how the symptoms can overlap etc.
If you have further questions, we would be more than happy to answer them for you if we can. I wish you the best of luck!
Peace and Blessings
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