Well said Oluwa! Well said! I doubt there is one person with lupus who has never been on the receiving end of "but you don't look sick". It is unfortunately safe to say that all of us at one time or another been subjected to ignorance, rudeness and condenscencion. Even working in an office for independent living, my own boss and coworkers have treated me with rudeness and hurtful comments. They have no idea how much effort it takes every morning and how much makeup I use to look "normal". I even went so far as for a week to not put a lot of effort into my appearance and golly gee whiz, I actually "looked sick" and was finally ALMOST taken seriously. I took a four day weekend this past weekend to deal with some personal issues. During that time, I flared more than usual so when I came back to work on Wednesday, I was in a great deal of pain and had to use crutches. How did my coworkers respond? By assuming I "did something" over the weekend. Yeah, I got out of bed- WHAT WAS I THINKING???
Judge Judy opened her mouth before engaging her brain. That happens a lot. I hope she doesn't seriously believe what she said and truly goofed up which in that case, she needs to make a public statement saying so. If she does believe herself then I hope her daughter in law educates her.
"I'm going to get healthy or die trying"