Welcome to WHL.
We are almost neighbors, I live across the lake from you, in Rochester NY.
I am glad, that you have finally gotten the diagnoses, we all know, how important that is.
As for your family and friends, not believing you and calling you lazy, tell them to educate them selves, so they can understand, what you are going through.
Off course, people who don't have Lupus, can't fully understand, but they can learn about it. You will learn with time, to ignore people and what they say or think.
As for having bad days and good days, we are all in the same boat.
Are you on any meds yet?
Looking foreward to getting to know you.
I may have been dealt a bad hand, but at least I'm still playing with a full deck. ( most of the time anyway).