Hi and welcome to WHL.
You did find people who get it.
You are pretty much the poster child of Lupus, almost all of us had a long journey, until we were diagnosed.
I am Debbie, 57 years old, diagnosed with Lupus in 2006, RA in 2008 and Sjogrens and Autoimmune Hepatitis last year.
As for having a baby, we have had several ladies here who made us aunts and uncles.
I am glad you have joint, this is a very nice group of people.
I may have been dealt a bad hand, but at least I'm still playing with a full deck. ( most of the time anyway).