It is really hard that there aren't more birth control methods that aren't hormonal. Barrier methods can be unreliable and undesirable for people in long-term relationships.
I have the Mirena IUD (not copper). It releases only a small dose of progesterone and lasts 5 years. I can't believe it's been 5 years already - I'm getting mine replaced in less than a month. I've been very happy with it. It is usually used by women that have already had kids, but I have not. It had a bad rap in the 70s with infertility due to infection, but is totally different now and is the most popular form of birth control in Europe.
It is frustrating to me that we don't have more widespread info on Lupus and birth control, especially since mostly women have Lupus!!! I think Rheumatologists should get more educated instead of leaving it up to Ob/gyns. And I do wish we all weren't pushed into hormonal forms so much!